Why Do I Glide?
WRITTEN BY BENDY GIRL
READ TIME: 4 min. 8 sec.
The question is: why do I glide? Due to their inexhaustible reserve of sexual and spiritual energy, it was once believed that women held the keys to inner alchemy.
There was a time women lived life passionately and carried no shame. Women of the Tao knew that by offering compassion to others, they raised the consciousness necessary to achieve complete transformation. Their profound healing rituals were savored by the powerful, spiritual and mystical beings of the day. Their focus was not conquest, it was to coexist: they offered healing and deep insights. Their time was precious and they were considered national treasures. We all still love the Geisha!
Over a decade and a half ago I took a road less traveled and entered the world of erotic touch therapy. My 1st year as a sensual therapist was much like the scene where Roger Rabbit enters cartoon land: you know where the real road ends. I willingly glided into the world of intimacy, sensuality and eroticism. My gut told me I would find personal freedom and eminent self-discovery in this strange territory akin to Oz. I soon learned my journey would be no small task.
The probability of female empowerment awaited me. If I could only wade through the thicket, the boobie traps and intentional road blocks set before me. Pretty quickly I saw the sex industry much like a video game. I was constantly fighting the bad guys and defending my honor while my pride was held captive by the unicorn at the end of a psychedelic rainbow. When you enter the sex industry, you spend about a year in personal battle over right, wrong, and personal truth. After that 1st year, you hate it or you love it, there is very little grey area. In the beginning you find yourself reacting like a prison warden you just assume everyone is the bad guy. As a result, you arm yourself with the proper safety precautions. In your bag of weapons is potentially only a bad attitude, flakey disposition, and inconsistent reliability. For most they either settle in, or bugger out.
I had never before had a reason to question sexual propaganda. That 1st year was just weird, but only in my own head. The Internet gave me an opportunity to research what I was getting myself into well before I took that 1st big step. No amount of preparation could combat the propaganda, judgements and preconceived ideas I had collected over a lifetime. It took almost 2-years to reprogram myself from all I had been “fed” regarding desire, pleasure, eroticism, sensuality, sex, sex life and acceptable personal behavior surrounding sexual/sensual/erotic activity.
Once I got out of my own way. I fell in love with SexWork. In no time I realized the possibilities for personal growth, financial freedom and I saw a NU way to help others fit in to the world around them with a different approach to healing. For me, it was a perfect healing solution. I settled into an erotic lifestyle that would glide my therapeutic tendencies in a NU direction.
Why glide now? We are entering a time in history where sexual dysfunction and reproductive illness is a concern for more than 60% of the population. Isolation, loneliness and separation are major issues that fuel emotion disturbances and mental instability that could be categorized as the true silent killers. Today synthetic solutions and surgical intervention are the only prescriptive offer to weak sexual systems and sick reproductive bodies. When sexlife dies: divorce, separation and lost companionship is the resolve for most. Many have come to accept the end of sexlife at midlife. Read more about the link between relationships and sexlife in this article from MindBodyGreen.
A sexlife breaks down in a very specific way (much like a bad back). Endothelial dysfunction, hormonal imbalance, loss of sensitivity and ability are still not linked to decline of intimacy, sex drive and sexual activity. The inaccessibility of sensual situations leaves many nowhere to turn when intimate issues arise. Use it or lose it is a perfect metaphor when referring to the sexual body, erotic performance and desire. Issues with touch, nudity and intimate communication should never be ignored. If sexual issues are ignored, sex will go away. What if the root of health and wellbeing was only a touch away? Everyone needs touch, love and gentleness to feel happy, healthy and whole. An infant cries when not attended to, a toddler talks back and a teenager acts out. An adult will slip into a state of depression, isolation or a hermetic lifestyle if they cannot find affection, tenderness or intimate moments. We can only go so long without genuine affection, tenderness and loving touch before sustainability is at risk.
In nature rapture comes to be when something passionately unearths all the good stuff from the unseen. This comes to life in the blooming of a flower, the sprouting of a seed or the birth of an infant. When nature reveals these wonders it teaches “the human” how to experience their whole being. Within these moments we find ourselves in awe over the power of the divine universe. Rainbows, shooting stars, waterfalls and nature’s beauties take our breath away. In these moments nature blends passion, goodness and darkness to display creation through co- existence. The infamous hope, faith and love.
I developed body glide to be an intimate healing art and a sophisticated manipulative therapy.
This blog should serve as an introduction of the affects and effects of body glide and Nuru as I intend for it to shift thought on the role intimacy, erotica, and sensuality play in long term health and overall wellbeing. I believe body glide, and therapies of this nature, can shift sexwork into sex therapy. Body glide offers me a new way to help others manage long-term health and a “whole” life.
Co-existence is natures highest calling.
XO,
BendyGirl
Loveologist
