SexRX: The Power of Pleasure
WRITTEN BY BENDY GIRL
READ TIME: 6 min. 12 sec.
Never lose hope my dear, miracles dwell in the invisible.
-Rumi
Without a doubt the number one question asked by those who spend time with me is,” What turns me on?” The answer is always the same: “delivering you the most pleasure possible is where I find my joy.” When I owned a yoga studio, I loved delivering a sweaty, unique and kick-ass class that every student in the room was positive I sequenced just for them. Even though the class was packed. After all, isn’t that why they showed up in the first place? For me - the business of deep joy, intense pleasure and the delivery of erotic ecstasy is no different. I am here to bring you into a world where pleasure is a powerful tool to heal, expand: to blow open your mind body and spirit. As humans we never stop exploring. We see this in the common revolving unknowns: what to feed ourselves, how to work out the most efficiently and the evaluation of personal goals that can get us to the ever-evolving future we want in life. Admit it > you’re an explorer who is constantly seeking new ways to evolve yourself, while deepening your personal understanding; so you can live your best life possible and experience the power of pleasure.
Tantra clearly theologizes the personal power one can unearth when intentional sensual/sexual evaluation is seen as a viable life path. Read more about the benefits of tantra in this article from Medium. Just as there is deep personal power in controlling and understanding: what we eat, how we move, how we handle finances and how we take control of time - there is POWER in the exploration/expansion/optimization of personal pleasure.
Can I Show You the Way?
My yoga studio was filled with lost souls, broken spirits, unhealthy bodies and dismembered emotional wellbeing. Those coming to a yoga class were always there to fix something that was “a-miss”. Most had no clue what was wrong, they just knew they didn’t feel “well” and “things” weren’t right. In the process of the twisty poses, inverted bodies and heart opening backbends, they could just barely get a view of the real issues that held them back from being all they hoped to be. But many just couldn’t face the light that the cracks let in, sometimes it was too painful to face, and they put it in their pockets and carried on.
It wasn’t until I entered sex work that I realized just how deep some of those issues were. There is a very personal reason I offer Intimate Yoga Therapy. Yoga is a great way to feel the pain our life choices have left us. It is a great place to begin personal connection and emotional exploration. Those aches and pains you feel in a yoga class are simply the ramification of all those choices you made while seeking a moment of synthetic pleasure. Call it tight hamstrings or a bad back….. but it did not get that way alone. One of my favorite lines I would always deliver to a beginner class: In the beginning it will hurt like hell! Everyone everywhere, no one escapes this part!
If You Do Not Set Yourself Up For a Life of Pleasure Do You Miss Out?
We can set out in life to be wealthy, healthy and wise. Then create the life path to make it so. Choices are made and foundations are built. But what about planning for an intimately pleasurable life? Apart from about 1% we start out as an adult with: external/personal erotic limitations, fake news surrounding taboos, judgements surrounding sex, lack of intimate experience and knowledge about this FUCKING path of life. I had to figure out sensuality, intimacy, consensual touch, what was right/wrong and what sex meant for me along the way. What about you? Many of us live with sexual trauma, intimate fear, apathy and a slew of other personal reasons to intentionally avoid intimate pleasure. Some just stop trying, while others get lost on the side streets and can’t find their way back. Pleasure loses its way sometimes - it needs you to consciously rescue it, because it can resuscitate your life.
It is not greedy to seek the most imaginable, deepest pleasure possible! It is important that we take a minute and remember that pleasure does not “belong” to a relationship. Pleasure, joy, happiness, ecstasy and love is a right we choose as individuals, coupled or not. Just as health comes from good eating > joy comes from good living! Fully exploring our sexuality is a necessary ingredient to a self-actualized life. Sexual union between humans has a strong spiritual dimension that few take the time to explore, no less develop. Each of us have the ability to maximize pleasurable moments, to expand our ability to let ourselves “go” just to see what lies beyond common knowing.
Exploring Male Pleasure
It’s common knowledge that women are multiple orgasmic with a wide spectrum of pleasure ability. Yet, penile orgasms are the meal of the day for common male sex acts. In the vanilla world men are expected to get it up, stick it in, get-off and call it good. Unfortunately, this ruins the hunt for pleasure for many men and they find themselves in a rut - sex becomes monotonous.
Male pleasure must dive far deeper than that, right!!?!! A human is a human and males crave pleasure, intimacy and erotic joy just as much as women. The plethora of male sex toys and personal prostate stimulators are a clear sign that male pleasure is being explored. The balls, perineum and anus are starting to get in the vanilla game. I might add prostate stimulation is 90% of my business... So, if you have a craving to explore this curiosity - trust me, you are not alone. Heterosexual males are beginning to understand that maybe it’s not such a taboo after all.
Could prostate stimulation be the secret to a more fulfilling love life? It is our job to know our bodies when no one else has a clue or is even trying to get it right. Rather through: self-exploration, engagement in sex work or if you have someone at home willing and able, maybe there is undiscovered pleasure just begging to be explored. If this is a new area of curiosity and exploration, let the taboos fall to the floor, bury your mainstream fake news and let yourself be open to new ecstatic pleasure that just might blow open your mind, body and awaken your sexual experiences. In case the questions beg, “Why is this so prelavent in sex work?” The only way to make a prostate massage even better? Add a blow job… out of this world mind blow! Pun intended.
So, What Does it Feel Like?
A penile orgasm is a quick burst and then it’s over, much like a heavy punch in the gut. Whereas a prostate orgasm is longer, more gradual and like an ocean wave that flows and recedes again and again. Prostate milking is slow, deep, and the sensations are initially felt in the periphery of the body, then slowly encompassing the entire physical form. A rush is felt in the face, tingling moves into hands and feet, and the pleasure seeps like slow moving warm molasses into the rest of the body. Some find that they need to kick out a leg cramp because when it hits, it hits that hard. If you can find the select few who know how to deliver this profoundly pleasurable sensations, it can be an amazing roller coaster. Think of a penile orgasm like watching “Star Wars” on the big screen then someone takes you to see it on IMAX… yea it’s like that!!!
Prostate stimulation is 100% a full body orgasm that cannot be experienced in any other way. With practice it can reduce refractory time and get you back in the game quicker. The right partner can eliminate the refractory time all together and help you develop multi-orgasmic ability. If a woman can develop these skills, common sense would say there must be an equal path for male sexual pleasure as well. If this is a curiosity for you - I am happy to take you on this journey!!
Regular prostate stimulation also delivers medical benefits that render intimate results. It can alleviate pressure on the urinary tract, while increasing blood flow and improving circulatory issues. Neurological function can be protected and typical aging issues can be diverted. It is possible to protect sexual function and enjoy a lifetime of intimate activity. BUT do take note > no prostate massage can reverse ED… However, it can give a man back his pleasure. Always seek out proper medical advice when necessary. We are talking about balls and dicks, if you are here reading this then clearly that matters to you.
To Happy Lives and Pleasurable Moments!
Namaste’
BG
