The Way of Tantra
WRITTEN BY BENDY GIRL
READ TIME: 3 min. 50 sec.
The aim of life is to live, and to live means to be aware, joyously, drunkenly, serenely, divinely aware
-Henry Miller
Tantra is perhaps one of the most misunderstood ancient arts of all time. I am asked on a daily basis to explain the theory, philosophy and practice of tantra. Most believe that the way of tantra is a fun new way of enjoying sex. The Kama Sutra provides a myriad of sensual delights that can be experienced by the body. Yoga introduced us to postures, breathing and fun little props. The road between yoga and the Kama Sutra was avoided like the black plague. Yoga would have never become mainstream in the western world had it claimed to be tantra’s “big sister” within the yoga family. In the Sex industry the word tantra is thrown around much like “organic” and “natural” are in the food industry. Very few have a clue what they have chosen to dabble in, and most of their efforts are ineffective. This leaves many clients, as well as practitioners, to believe that tantra is just another hocus-pocus. Nothing could be further from the truth. To learn more about the benefits of tantra checkout this article from MindBodyGreen.
The healing offered by a true tantric experience cannot be categorized. The underlying message offered by tantra can be profound, and render a new path toward a full human experience. When our diet becomes difficult to manage, or our waistline gets a little out of control, we seek help. We begin to look at what/how/when we are eating. We make small changes in our eating habits and begin to make better choices. We decide to seek the advice of a nutritionist or dietician. We begin to buy our food at the farmers/fish market, and we are careful when eating out. Another scenario is when we discover we are not as strong as we used to be, and age is catching up. We decide to take action. We join a gym or purchase home workout equipment. Some go as far as to hire a personal trainer and wake up early to hit the mat. Many of us dedicate time and money in order to mend our broken bodies. We build the core, pound the cardio and push the boundaries of flexibility. The beauty industry is booming and there are more products on the market than you can even begin to count. We love to look beautiful. A person can eat at any number of restaurants with world class chefs and culinary delights in order to satiate our cravings. The fashion industry makes bank on the waistlines that go up and down in order to maintain the perfect mold. Churches, hook up sites, matchmaker sites and social media reveal we want connection and acceptance. Tantra is where you turn when it is time to understand: joy, happiness, passion, desire, intimacy and all the other aspects that come naturally to a “sex life”. The reality is, sex is the direct road to experience all the above - it sends out a hint that we just may want: joy, happiness, passion, desire and intimacy in LIFE; not just in bed. Who doesn’t want a LUST for life?
Unfortunately healthy communication surrounding Sex is not a normal part of our social conversations. As a result little is known of our: Intimate bodies, healthy intimate habits, and how to engage in healthy intimate communication. Without proper education, information and application>> nothing can be fully understood. Sex is no exception to this rule. Before we understand the importance of a balanced diet, food is random. When this happens, bad habits are established. We all have friends that survive on coffee and fast food; and we have no clue how they manage to get through the day. Until we know how to properly feed ourselves, illnesses and diseases can be picked up even from common foods. Sex has bad habits, stress, trauma, emotional disorders and fixations that can lead to relationship issues, and loss of love. In turn this leads to depression, loss of “self”, and isolation. Passion, intimacy, desire and erotic moments can open doors of self-discovery and realizations. Nudity, intercourse, climax and orgasm can heal illnesses, offer relief from pain and help us feel “normal”. The lack of intimate situations leave many feeling lost in their bodies and the world around them. Seeing a tantrist is like going to a personal trainer for your intimate life.
A tantrist dedicates her life to healing and loving others. We simply want everyone to feel nirvana, peace and bliss on a tangible level - in the here and NOW. Sexual energy is THE tangible energy that can be manipulated, harnessed and controlled to achieve maximum performance in intimate situations and in life. We run intentionally, and even enter competitions to prove what training can do. Yet our intimate lives are still a great mystery. A tantrist can help you improve your “intimate performance”.
The Journey Experiments: About a year ago I began offering microdosing with MDMA (Molly, Ecstasy) during sessions, for those who are interested. Many have gone home with mushrooms and the proper protocol for therapeutic applications. The results have ranged from simply, “wow” to a few flat out profound outcomes. If you are on the fence but curious, I highly encourage you to do your homework and dive in. You might find your results to be nothing short of mind blowing! I believe MDMA takes us to the place that many dream a sexual experience can be, but just can’t seem to get there on their own! Let me be your guide into a deeper sensual experience that just may change everything.
Namaste’ and love from…
Bendy
